What is jealousy?
Jealousy is a complex emotional response to perceived threats to a valued relationship—often involving fear, insecurity, or comparison. While common, jealousy can become distressing, obsessive, or damaging if it overwhelms trust or self-worth.
“I hated feeling jealous—but I couldn’t stop the thoughts. It felt like I was always on edge, waiting to be replaced.”
Jealousy in adults can manifest in romantic relationships, friendships, family, or work. Some feel threatened by real or imagined rivals; others compare themselves constantly and fear being inadequate or left behind. For many, jealousy is linked to past experiences—such as betrayal, abandonment, or low self-esteem—and can trigger shame, anger, or controlling behaviours.
Affected individuals may not realise how jealousy shapes their relationships. It can lead to checking behaviours, accusations, withdrawal, or emotional outbursts. Others internalise their jealousy and feel quietly tormented. If jealousy becomes persistent, obsessive, or interferes with daily life or intimacy, psychological support can help identify the underlying causes and build emotional security.
“Working with jealousy isn’t about suppressing it—it’s about understanding the story beneath it and helping people relate to it with more insight and self-compassion.”
At Bloomfield Health, we offer a compassionate and evidence-based approach to jealousy. We begin with a thorough assessment to explore patterns, emotional triggers, and past relational experiences. Treatment may include cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), compassion-focused therapy (CFT), or schema therapy. For those in relationships, we also offer couple therapy. Our goal is usually not to eliminate jealousy entirely, but to reduce its intensity, increase self-understanding, and promote healthier, more secure ways of relating.
No—but when persistent or distressing, it may reflect deeper emotional patterns that therapy can help with.
Jealousy often stems from past hurt, self-doubt, or unmet emotional needs—not just current behaviour.
Yes. Therapy can help reduce intrusive thinking, challenge unhelpful beliefs, and build emotional resilience.
Absolutely. We offer a non-judgemental space to explore what jealousy means to you and how to work with it.
Not necessarily. It can arise in secure relationships due to one individual’s personal history or emotional triggers.
We help explore this compassionately and offer strategies to restore safety and trust in your relationships.
Yes. We provide couple sessions to address trust, communication, and emotional security.
Not at all. With the right support, most people develop more secure, confident ways to manage jealousy.
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