Bereavement after child loss

 
 

What is bereavement after child loss?

Losing a child is one of the most devastating experiences a person can endure. It disrupts the natural order of life and can affect every part of a parent’s identity. The grief can feel endless, overwhelming, and isolating.

“The world kept turning, but mine had stopped. There’s no name for a parent who’s lost a child—and that says everything.”

Different experiences of child loss

Grieving the death of a child—whether through miscarriage, illness, accident, or suicide—is a profoundly individual experience. Some parents feel paralysed by guilt, anger, or helplessness. Others describe numbness or detachment from the world. Many struggle with intense longing, reliving moments over and over, or fearing they’ll forget their child’s voice or smell.

Grief may be complicated by medical trauma, decisions made during care, or distress around how others respond. Parents often say they feel invisible in their grief—others avoid the topic or try to offer comfort that feels hollow. If the child had a disability or chronic illness, parents may also grieve the loss of their caregiving identity. This type of bereavement can lead to depression, anxiety, or trauma, and requires sensitive, expert support.

“Nothing compares to walking with someone through the grief of child loss. We don’t rush—we listen, witness, and walk at their pace.”

Symptoms of bereavement after child loss

  • Intense sorrow, despair, or numbness
  • Guilt or blame, even when unfounded
  • Flashbacks, nightmares, or intrusive memories
  • Difficulty functioning or engaging with others
  • Anger at others, yourself, or the world
  • Loss of identity or purpose
  • Physical pain or fatigue
  • Avoidance of reminders or obsessive rituals
  • Deep longing or hallucinations of the child
  • Disconnection from partner, friends, or wider family
Our approach
 

Our approach to treating bereavement after child loss

At Bloomfield Health, we offer trauma-informed, compassionate support for parents grieving the loss of a child. We understand this pain is lifelong and not something to be “fixed”. Our clinicians provide a calm and respectful space, using therapies such as bereavement counselling, trauma-focused CBT, or compassion-focused therapy, depending on your needs. We support you in honouring your child’s memory while slowly finding ways to live alongside the loss. No timeline. No expectations. Just care.

 

Frequently asked questions

It may never go away—but over time, it becomes more bearable. We help you find ways to carry it differently.

Yes. The intensity of child loss grief can feel unbearable. You’re not alone, and support can help.

Absolutely. Grief after miscarriage or stillbirth is real and valid. We’re here for you.

Yes. Anger is a natural part of grief—at the world, at systems, even at those close to you.

No. Joy and grief can coexist. You’re allowed moments of relief and life.

We offer support for complex or repeated loss, including multiple births or previous bereavements.

Grief affects people differently. We can support individuals and couples navigating this disconnect.

Whenever you feel ready. Whether it’s days, months, or years later, support is here when you need it.

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